Return to Innocence
- Anuja Nair
- Mar 22
- 4 min read
Have you felt the weight of past hurts and inner turmoil holding you back? We search for peace and acceptance, hoping to find harmony amidst the chaos. Yet, without realizing it, we sometimes fall into patterns that move us further away from the very serenity we long for. One of the most common patterns is the blame game—a subtle but deeply ingrained way of coping with our struggles.
In this blog let us look at:
The Blame Game and Its Consequences
Too many of us thrive on the blame-and-criticize game and run away from the very thing that we are searching for—peace, acceptance, and inner harmony. Somebody’s misbehavior, betrayals, or wrongdoings are a part of their characteristics. Yet we create our reality—not some of it, not most of it, but all of it. It is in our power to restore the vibrations that originally caused the misfortune.
We often need someone or something to take ownership of the confusion and pain. We either blame others or ourselves for the misfortunes of the world. Sometimes, the ultimate blame game is when we put the onus on God.
A Glimpse into Our True Nature
But what if we saw ourselves as the creators of our lives? We are sparks of light from the Source of divinity, carrying the essence of the creator force within us. We are born with the purity and essence of this god force. In other words, each of us comes as a piece of heaven, temporarily reminding those around us of this heavenly space within us.
The Cycle of Childhood and Adult Conditioning
As babies and toddlers, we hold this sweet spot until it gradually gets pushed down—bit by bit, day by day—under the rubbles of rights and wrongs, good and bad. We begin to see ourselves the way the world sees us. That’s how we begin to blame ourselves and feel guilty.
Has it ever occurred to adults, before they blame an innocent child, that the child may not even have the cognition to comprehend what is happening to them? They don’t usually have the vocabulary to express what they are experiencing. Very often, adults are too quick to scold children, being more tuned to societal expectations than to understanding the real feelings of their children.
Interestingly, adults themselves were often subjected to similar treatment in childhood, leaving them without the empathy and compassion needed to understand what a child is going through. So, what can we do when a child comes to an adult—parent or teacher—with a complaint? We can give space to the child to speak up in their limited vocabulary, allowing their emotions to flow without judgment. Children have an innate ability to move on to a happier place quickly. Their resilience and adaptability are prime strengths that help them grow emotionally.
Generational Guilt and Emotional Baggage
However, when primary emotions are not given space to flow out, they remain in our body system and psyche. Many such incidents cause layers of secondary emotions to build up, eventually reaching a tipping point. At that point, a simple comment or incident can trigger a bout of emotions for which we often do not have an immediate reason.
We tend to carry generational guilt within our system, feeling responsible for others’ fates. We express this guilt through anger, frustration, criticism, judgment, or even self-blame. All these feelings denote an underlying helplessness and powerlessness. Unexpressed emotions often present themselves as aggressive or defensive behaviors that reinforce the underlying story of guilt.
Even when you have been a victim, putting the blame on another as well as cursing or retaliating mentally or actually makes you a perpetrator yourself. So, how can we come out of this emotional tangle?
Healing and Returning to Innocence
Create safe spaces for emotional release as the first step toward freedom from the cycles of blame and guilt. When we allow ourselves to feel, express, and release our emotions without judgment, we reclaim our inner peace. A session with a trusted facilitator or the privacy of your own space can help.
The journey begins with letting go of the temptation to blame others for what is happening in your life—even if they are visibly causing it.
Nurture your inner mother or feminine energy within yourself to soothe, nurture, and nourish. Your inner mother is not necessarily your actual mother but a nurturing version of you—born from the qualities of care and compassion.
Be there for yourself during times of isolation, rejection, and blame. Speak to yourself gently and compassionately. Reassure yourself that it is safe to open your heart and practice seeing people and things around you with love and kindness.
Allow yourself to return to your childlike innocence. This may take time. You can visualize yourself holding a tiny baby in your arms—feeling its softness and tenderness. This visualization helps release pent-up emotions and gradually brings you back to your natural state of innocence.
Coming Full Circle
Perhaps our inner prison can truly be emptied if we create a space where unspent emotions can surface safely, stories can emerge, and the past can finally be laid to rest. This gentle return to innocence is not just a personal journey but an offering to the world—showing that love, compassion, and understanding can dissolve even the heaviest burdens.
As we reclaim our innocence and nurture our inner child, we also rediscover our natural state of peace and harmony. By letting go of blame, guilt or shame and choosing compassion instead, we allow ourselves to heal from within and break the cycle of generational guilt. Every step toward nurturing ourselves is a step toward wholeness and inner freedom.
The journey of returning to innocence is not about erasing the past but embracing it with love and acceptance. It’s about creating a safe space within where your truest self can thrive without fear or judgment. As you move forward, trust that every gentle effort brings you closer to the essence of who you are—pure, resilient, and ever-evolving.
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